@Taffy4400
You can only run Deco mesh in Access Point mode if your main modem/router runs in its default router (or gateway) mode.
Assuming you haven't made any changes in your main modem/router, or rolled them back, here is how I would recommend to proceed:
1. Power off Deco mesh;
2. See if you still have Internet access over WiFi from main modem/router. If you do, everything is set, if not - figure by yourself or with ISP Tech Support how to restore modem/router to its original settings;
3. Connect Synology NAS by Ethernet cable directly to main modem/router. Bring Synology NAS to modem/router if necessary - this is temporary. Configure remote access to NAS. You are now configuring remote access through regular router, Synology forums and Internet search could help with that;
4. After you have configured remote access successfully, power on Deco mesh;
5. Configure Deco mesh to run in Access Point mode: Switching a Deco to Access Point (AP) Mode
6. Turn off main modem/router WiFi, your Deco mesh provides WiFi coverage now;
7. Power off Synology NAS, unplug it from main modem/router, take NAS back to its permanent place, connect to Deco unit, power it on. Remote access to Synology NAS should still work.
Done.